1 - Be yourself! That is what attracted your ex to you in the first place. If you will be yourself, you will remind them of why they fell in love with you.
2 - Get out of the house! Don't sit around and feel sorry for yourself. If you don't want to date yet, that is ok. I do suggest you develop a network of friends and co-workers and enjoy some entertainment and time with them. If you can spend some social time with common friends that you and your ex have, even better! It will show your ex that you are moving on, when they may have not, and maybe make them think that they lost a keeper!
3 - Don't get mad. Don't demand that your ex get out, or pick up their stuff by a certain date. Be a good listener and sympathize with them. They will expect you to get angry and will be impressed that you are dealing with the situation like an adult, and may be willing to keep the lines of communication open with you.
4 - Give them some space. Give them some quiet time to reflect and clear their mind. Maybe some time apart will let them realize how important the relationship was. I know seems backwards...not to contact them when you want to get back together, but this is important. You both need the short term separation to look back and reflect. When you try to start up communications again do not leave multiple email messages or phone messages. It will make you look desperate (desperation is not an attractive quality) and they will start worrying if they will have a stacker on their hands!
5- Be strong. Remember desperation is unattractive!! Let your ex believe that you are fine and moving on. Everyone hopes that their ex in pining over them. Don't give them the satisfaction! If your ex thinks that you have moved on, they may realize that they have not!
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